Is there anything more stressful than preparing for a first date? From setting it up to deciding what to wear, we strive for perfection when planning an encounter with the person we are hoping to make a life-long connection with. That’s a pretty important encounter. At some point in life, unfortunately, most of us have experienced the first date blahs—the date where you can tell within minutes that you won’t be hoping for a second one. Then there are the dates you wish would never end. Pay attention to the signs they want a second date, and you will quickly know if both of you are on the same page.
The Eyes Say It All
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. If that’s the case, then when you stare into Mr. or Miss Dreamy’s eyes there should be a connection. If there isn’t, then you may have just made a nice new friend. Sorry.
Beyond the connection, how is your date acting during your time together when it comes to eye contact? Do you have their full attention? Do his or her eyes say, “Can I see you again ASAP?” Or do they seem to say, “I really didn’t need to have the car cleaned.” Obviously, one means let’s do this, and the other means it’s time for the next match.
If your date’s eyes seem to be everywhere but on you, and they are expressing boredom while hearing your life story, plan another first date the following weekend with someone new. However, if they can’t seem to get enough of your beautiful smile, then a second date is on the way.
There Is Talk of the Future
Listen, you don’t need to discuss how you will raise children together or set a wedding date just yet. However, your date will be interested in letting you know how they see their life in the future if they are thinking you might be a part of it.
Mentioning activities that they would love to do with a partner or discussing where they’d like to settle down in the future are signs they want a second date. If one of you has tickets to the opera in a month and it never comes up, then a second date is not in order.
Dates are an interview, whether we like it or not. The point of dating, for most, is to find someone to enjoy life with. That can mean marriage or some other form of commitment with a trusted partner. When feeling a connection, it’ll be taken further with discussions of the future. After all, if future plans don’t line up, you won’t want to waste anyone’s time, and you certainly don’t need your time wasted either.
You Both Simply Don’t Want It To End
There is no need to announce you both don’t want the date to end, because it will be obvious. Are they glued to their seat, afraid to even go to the bathroom because they don’t want to miss a minute spent with you? Then expect to be asked out again.
On the other hand, is your date checking their watch or letting you know several times that they have to get up super early tomorrow? If so, a second date is not happening.
More often than not, when there is a connection, it is felt by both people on the date. Sure, there are disappointing times when one may feel it and the other does not. But usually if one doesn’t want the date to end, it’s probably because they are feeling the same vibe from their date. And when that vibe is there, a second date is inevitable.
There Is an Unexplainable Comfort
Body language says so very much, so pay attention. When you are talking with your date, are they focused on you as if there is no one else in the room? Do they seem nervous, but in a cute, I think I’ve found the one kind of way? That is a tell-tale sign your date wants to repeat the evening.
Or maybe they are squirming in their seat in a not-so-cute way. If it is more like they are going to lose their mind if they have to spend another minute with you, don’t take it personally. They just aren’t the one for you and it is time to move on.
Checking a watch or phone over and over and looking around the room are all signs that a second date is not a good idea.
Focused attention is noticeable in body language and comfort level. Watch how they are behaving. If they are making you feel comfortable with their actions, a second date is probably going to happen.
Smiles and Laughter Abound
Let’s face it, a great date creates a permanent smile on our faces. Smiling is a great feeling and a sure sign a second date is wanted. No one wants to look across the table at someone who never cracks a smile. That is uncomfortable and just plain rude. Look for signs of pleasantness and a sense they are happy to be there.
Laughter isn’t only fun but also a sign that you are both comfortable and having a great time. What good is a date if it is no fun? If during your first date plenty of giggles and tears from laughter appear, plan on seeing this fun person again. Life can be hard. You need a partner who can make you laugh.
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